Do you work hard? Are you chasing success in your career and life? You’re not alone.
Here’s the problem. What you chase… runs away!
What if you could change one belief, and start seeing success come toward you instead?
In this episode, meet the World’s Best Unconscious Beliefs Specialist, Tim Shurr.
He is the foremost expert on freeing people from anxiety, past trauma, and bad habits that sabotage your success. He is the creator of the revolutionary One Belief Away™ Method developed through facilitating over 15,000 individual Hypnosis coaching sessions and hundreds of group training experiences over the last 34 years.
Tim explains why working harder and getting smarter is not the answer, especially for engineering leaders like you.
We cover a powerful technique for self-coaching, to expose blocks and barriers in your career growth. Tim also shows you how to use fear to your advantage.
So press play and let’s chat… because the next level in your career and life is just one belief away!
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WHY WORKING HARDER DOES NOT WORK
That was an amazing conversation with Tim Shurr, the world’s best unconscious beliefs specialist.
He only scratched the surface of all the incredible and transformational work that he does in the field of unconscious mind hypnotism and radical transformation of beliefs.
What am I afraid of?
Tim’s work is truly fundamental to creating a whole new life.
And I want to come back to the question that Tim shared, which is going through 50 times of “what am I most afraid of” and peeling back the layers.
If you’re like me, it’s really weird at first asking that question.
It’s kind of tricky to get below the outer layers, what I call the crust of my conscious mind, because we don’t go there very often.
I encourage you to, first, get Tim’s book (download a copy of Tim’s audiobook here) because you’re going to take your understanding of these topics to a whole new level by digging into Tim’s incredible book. Then, go back in the interview and listen to the example that Tim gave of the repeating question of “What am I afraid of?”
And you can see how he peeled back the layers on a common example.
The Three Layers of Fear
Another one of the world’s best in this area is the late Susan Jeffers.
A PhD whose book “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway” sold more than 2 million copies.
Susan brings up three layers of fears that show up in our lives.
And the top level, the surface level are the things that we typically talk about the things that come up most often when we ask the question, “What am I afraid of?”
Top level fears are dying, getting sick, growing old, becoming disabled, a natural disaster. These are things that require action, that you’re afraid to take that action.
It could also be a big decision that you need to make on a career change, or it could be approaching a new person and introducing yourself.
These level-one fears are the things on the surface.
It’s the actual situations and things that happen to us in our lives.
Then there’s what Susan Jeffers refers to as level two fears. That’s where you get out of situation-oriented explanations of fear and really into the place of fear that involves our ego or our identity in a deeper way.
These are inner states of mind. And this would be things like fear of rejection, or fear of being vulnerable. It could be a sense of helplessness, or the fear of losing approval or significance in the world.
Then Susan introduces a level three of fear. And for her, this is the deepest level in her model of how fear manifests and level three fear all boils down to one core idea in the model that Susan Jeffers teaches, which is that I can’t handle it.
It’s the “I’m not enough” fear.
At the bottom of every one of your fears, Susan Jeffer says that it’s simply the fear that you can’t handle.
Now I’d encourage you to go check out her work after you’re done with Tim’s book, if you want to go deeper on that.
But the reason I wanted to share it with you is simply to open your heart and mind to what a exploration of this question of “What am I most afraid of?” could look like.
Start asking that question and ask again and again, and as an engineering leader, this would be something I think you’ll be really good at. It’s just like the five Whys that we learned in undergrad.
We’re gonna do a similar process, just asking “What am I most afraid of about that?”
I encourage you to grab a journal when you’re doing this.
I’m so glad that Tim brought this up because I see it as one of the biggest gaps in a lot of coaching that’s out there where we just explore all of the things that we’re afraid of and all the stuff from our past by asking new questions, but that’s where we stop.
And it’s so important that you ask the second question, which is “What would I rather believe instead?”
Perhaps a variation, “Who would I be without the belief of these fears?” Or “Who would I be without the fear?”
Get curious, write down some new ideas, some new thoughts, and to Tim’s point, this is a powerful exercise to do alone. It is a transformational exercise to do with your coach. When you have a third party, somebody who’s a true expert at exploring this with you. You can get so much deeper, so much faster and have someone there on the outside of the bottle to read the label to you.
But even if you’re by yourself, get curious.
I had a client one time who really confided in me and whom I absolutely respect and love, but when we got to this part of the exercise he said, “I don’t know if I really like this idea. Like what, what do you mean? What would I rather believe instead, I don’t just, you know, choose beliefs. I seek to believe what is true.”
And I just want you to know if that resonates for you, that I really do respect that.
This process of choosing new beliefs is extremely important and I don’t take it lightly at all, but it is a transformational process when you can renew your mind to something that is true, to something that is empowering, to something that is connected to who you want to be as an engineering leader, as a husband or wife, as a mother or father, as a brother or sister, as a friend, as a colleague.
This is a really powerful exercise. Tim left us with pure gold in this conversation.
And again, what’s the action that you can take coming out of this episode? Well, there it is. Block time and go dig in to what you’re most afraid of and then reach out, join our community.
We would love to be a part of that journey with you in a place where there’s no shame and no judgment of what you discover, just a desire.
And the tools and resources and community to help you transform and get to those results.
ABOUT TIM SHURR
Tim Shurr, MA, is the World’s Best Unconscious Beliefs Specialist and foremost expert on freeing people from anxiety, past trauma, PTSD, and bad habits. He is the creator of the revolutionary One Belief Away™ Method developed through facilitating over 15,000 individual Hypnosis coaching sessions and hundreds of group training experiences over the last 34 years.
Tim’s helped Corporate Clients earn millions in annual revenue by upgrading self-limiting unconscious programming in executives and sales teams and has been featured over fifty times on ABC, NBC, CBS, FOX, and the TEDx stage.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
- Tim’s new audiobook, The Power of Your Unconscious Mind
- Tim Shurr on LinkedIn
- Tim Shurr’s Website
- Do you feel burned out from working hard? Book a FREE Career Clarity Call now!
FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:
Please note the full transcript is 90-95% accuracy. Reference the podcast audio to confirm exact quotations.
[00:00:00] Zach White: Happy engineers, welcome back! And Tim, it is an absolute pleasure to have you here on The Happy Engineer Podcast. Thanks so much for making time today, man.
[00:00:18] Tim Schurr: This is awesome. Oh, it’s an honor, Zach. I’m uh, excited to spend this time with you and to have an awesome, really amazing conversation. It will be good.
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[00:15:13] ’em stop smoking, lose weight. Sure. Of course. And then anxiety. Right. so I did thousands of sessions to help people with weight loss and people would come in and they’d say, I know what to do. I just can’t get myself to do it. what they’re saying is I’m smart. I’m logical, I’m intelligent. I could write my own cookbook.
[00:15:28] But emotionally I’m still doing the same things and I can’t seem to stop. Yes. Yes. Okay. There’s the problem. So then I think, maybe they have the solution, so what’s the solution. Well, if you could just help me get motivated. If I could just get motivated, you know, and break this bad habit, then I’ll be okay.
[00:15:44] Tim Schurr: So I would get ’em super motivated and they’re like, I’m gonna conquer the world and they would leave my office and they’d feel great for about a week, sometimes three or four weeks. And then they would always come back and they would say, I think this hypnosis stopped working. And I’m like, okay, well, let’s come back and I get ’em super motivated and it wouldn’t work as well.
[00:16:01] And over time I noticed that it’s not about motivation and it’s not definitely about, not about willpower. And it’s not that they don’t want it. Because some people like Dr. Phil used to say, you just don’t want it enough. You don’t
[00:16:12] Zach White: want it bad enough. Yeah, totally. Yeah.
[00:16:14] Tim Schurr: That’s a total lie, and it’s like, um, abusing the victim kind of, because they do want it so bad, they torture themselves over it.
[00:16:22] And then you tell ’em that they don’t want it, which is really messes with people’s minds. That is false. Right. So, what it is. I found that I was doing hypnosis sessions and I learned this technique, hypnotic regression, where you take people back to the ISE, the initial sensitizing event. Okay. Where that belief was formed.
[00:16:41] Now I didn’t understand about the belief that was formed back at the time. The idea was that you take ’em back to the moment when they had some kind of traumatic situation and you give them resources that they didn’t have before. And you have them view it from the point of view of an adult instead of a little scared kid.
[00:16:58] And I thought, okay, so I was doing that and people were coming out of that and it had nothing to do with weight loss, the situation. so I’ll be talking to someone and they, um, you know, um, I binge eat and okay, so we’re gonna go back and they go back to when they’re seven years old and they’re being abused in some.
[00:17:17] Right. And so I started helping them with the healing, from the abuse because sadly more people than not have been abused in all kinds of terrible ways. And so, we go back, we make ’em safe. We give ’em back their power. We give ’em new resources. We change. It turns out you don’t have to change the past.
[00:17:32] You just have to change the way you’re interpreting what it means. So we will give them resources so that they feel safe. They feel strong, they feel worthy, they feel protected. So I would do that. And then all of a sudden people would go and they would drop 20 pounds and they, the sugar addiction would disappear and they weren’t binging anymore and purging, they weren’t doing any of that.
[00:17:52] And I never once told them you love salads. Right. And I’m like, this is something interesting. So I started doing it with more people. And then over time I realized it’s not just giving them the new resources. They had formed a belief in their mind that I’m not worthy. I’m not good enough. I’ll be abandoned.
[00:18:13] I won’t be loved. You know, people will reject me. You can’t trust people. The world is cruel place. If you walk around with those beliefs, it completely affects what your brain pays attention to and how it makes decisions at an unconscious level. Some research says that your unconscious mind helps you determine what decision you’re gonna make a full seven seconds before you have any conscious awareness that that decision has been made.
[00:18:39] Zach White: That’s seconds. That’s
[00:18:41] Tim Schurr: unbelievable. Well, seven seconds in some cases. Yeah. And so that’s like, whoa, that’s a lot of time. Right? Cause our mind’s usually in milliseconds, right. Making so many decisions. And so that’s extraordinary. And so I started upgrading those beliefs going from, I’m not worthy to, I am.
[00:18:59] I’m not good enough to I’m More than enough. I can’t do it to, I can do it. I will be abandoned to no one can ever abandon me because I will never, I’m always gonna be here for me. I’m always gonna be my best friend. I’m always gonna have my own back. And as long as I’m here for me, I’m good.
[00:19:13] Right. Wow. And boy, you take that power back. You don’t have to wait for other people to do the right thing anymore. You give it to yourself, you lock that in and you reinforce it. and then people were having. Staggering breakthrough significant that lasted through time that were sustainable.
[00:19:30] Once you upgrade a belief, it stays upgraded. You can’t go back to thinking that old way because you know, better now. Right? And then, then over time I kept forming more experiences like, well, you know, when you upgrade those beliefs, sometimes a lot of anger, a lot of guilt, a lot of shame, a lot of rage, a lot of resentment will come up afterwards.
[00:19:47] So session two was formed. Where we were releasing all that toxic emotional energy. Yes. Yes. You know, and that deep Ealing and then bringing in forgiveness was, born. And so I started doing. So I created eight different unique experiences. I usually take people through the first four and it changes their life.
[00:20:05] And I go through these experiences and it has about a 99% success rate. There are every once in a while, someone it just doesn’t click for, and then I’ve got other tools. and then sometimes that’s just, I’m not the right fit or they’re, you know, they have some serious stuff that going on with their hardware.
[00:20:23] It’s not emotional. It’s their hardwiring of their brain, you know, really strong, intense OCD and obsessive compulsive disorder. but 99% of the time it has significant results. It doesn’t matter. I just did a session for a five year old, the other. I didn’t even know if it would work.
[00:20:40] I told him, mom, I said, don’t pay me until we know it works. And then she, she called me and gave me a credit card number. I’m like, yes, right. Five years old.
[00:20:50] Zach White: that’s I mean, and that’s so powerful because half of those, trauma experiences haven’t even happened yet. So you just to start allowing for healing to take place, even before you’ve built a.
[00:21:02] Decade of programming on top of how that’s a success strategy for you, right? Yeah. So real quick, Tim, the engineer in me has to get curious about the 1% or the 0.1%, whatever it is. And my, test engineer days, it’s like, you don’t just wanna dismiss outliers. let’s make sure we understand the special cause or what’s happening there.
[00:21:22] And how does it inform, the whole data set. is there anything that you’ve seen to be true? whether it’s, is it a bio biology? Like there’s something that doesn’t function the same in that person’s brain or the systems of their body are, different in some way, or is there something about that’s what it is.
[00:21:41] Okay. Okay.
[00:21:42] Tim Schurr: No, that’s what it is. It’s almost always, well, I actually, I’m gonna say it’s always that someone has some other stuff that’s going on. and I usually recognize it in the first session. I always give it a shot anyway, the worst that can happen is I just give ’em a refund and it didn’t go well for an hour.
[00:21:59] right. Yeah. Yeah. But the best thing that could happen is it could save their life. It changed their life. Yeah. Yeah. And so it’s definitely a hard wiring with the OCD, they could do better if they gave it more time. But sometimes because of that, they don’t wanna do.
[00:22:13] Or they will push away. Sometimes it doesn’t work because people aren’t ready. Sometimes they have secondary benefits, you know, where there’s a hit and payoff for, not changing. But usually I can help uncover that after we have, two or three sessions. But really interesting when they just flat out doesn’t work and we know it’s not gonna work, it’s almost always because they have some really intense OCD that is, um, prohibiting them from getting where they could be.
[00:22:41] in one session.
[00:22:42] Zach White: Sure. Makes sense. Yeah. So what’s super fascinating about this to me is you told the story like, Hey, there’s a thousand sessions like this and you used weight loss as an example, but the truth. the trauma or the, the was, it is E that you mentioned that initial event, initial sensitizing event.
[00:23:01] Okay. Sensitizing event had nothing to do with stuffing cake down your mouth. It’s not like had anything to do with weight. It’s completely unrelated. And so, you know, I know for the engineering leaders who I coach and I’m sure for the engineering leader, listening, to this conversation right now, the idea that.
[00:23:20] What I want most that isn’t going my way. The thing that I feel this resistance around, or frustration or anger, or even I I’m depressed or I’ve given up, or, I’ve been passed over for promotion five times, and I’ll never be smart enough to make it to that level. Or, fill in the blank thing.
[00:23:37] The notion that that could be connected to a trauma big T little T that has nothing to do. academic success or career success or whatever could be totally different is very enlightening. So I guess I’m curious, like how do we, as these analytical engineering types. Kind of get out of our own way and out of our head to be open to this, cuz I I’ll just be honest.
[00:24:02] It’s very easy to be skeptical. Like what are you, Tim? I don’t know what you’re talking about. You know, work working on my daddy issues is gonna help me grow my business faster. Like I don’t get it.
[00:24:12] Tim Schurr: Yeah. I didn’t get it either. And I was skeptical too. You know, I was the rebellious, prove it kind of guy.
[00:24:18] Yeah. You know, prove it to me. Yeah. You know? And so, um, but then I kept having these experiences over and over and I’m like, oh, well, I mean, you can’t argue with results. And then when you have thousands and thousands of results and you just keep seeing it over and over to argue. Against it. Well now, you’re on the other side of the coordinator.
[00:24:34] Well, that’s insanity to argue against sure. Kind of results. So, our beliefs definitely. There’s two things when you let’s talk about, like, I’m not getting that promotion. Okay. I’ve been passed over five times. So the first part is maybe just, maybe there is, uh, some belief that gets in the way that causes you to show up in a way where you’re not being the best team.
[00:24:56] Or you don’t think that, um, you know, spending as much time building a relationship is important, as long as you get the job done. Right. And that’s because of what you were taught growing up or how you saw your father, or mother, uh, that’s how they did it. Yeah. Right. And so that is getting in your way.
[00:25:13] It might be a blind spot that you have that you’re not even aware of. I mean, almost everybody comes to my office thinking that it’s one thing and it’s something else. They don’t know anything about this unconscious belief stuff. Unless they listen to my audio book, the power of your unconscious mind.
[00:25:29] They, they have never, heard of any of this stuff before. And so there’s a blind spot. You just don’t see what you, what you can’t see. You can’t see the label when you’re in the bottle. Right. So the other part of it might not be your technical skills because that’s what we do and that you and I have talked about that.
[00:25:46] And you had said this, that we just rely on trying to be smarter or work harder. And sometimes those aren’t the issue. When I’m doing work with corporate America and with companies and teams and stuff like that, the person that gets thepromotion, isn’t always the smartest in the room.
[00:26:02] It’s the person who, connects with the most people who has the best communication skills. And if you’re super analytical, that might not be as important to you. And so I’ve had to do a lot of work with doctors over the years and engineers over the years because, they didn’t feel like that was as important.
[00:26:21] As getting the job done and when you’re leading teams and you’re not as much in the field and you’re leading teams, which is usually what happens, they take you out of a position where you’re awesome and promote you. Yeah. sure something where you’re not as good, you know,
[00:26:36] So my son is an engineer. He’s very analytical in that way. So when he was 16, I put a copy of, I been friends and influence people. Right with Dale, Cardale, Carnegie, Dale Carnegie. I put that book in his hand and I said, read it. And he said, it changed him for the rest of his high school, because he was very, you know, you know, we were always kid like, he’s like Sheldon a little bit.
[00:26:59] you know? Sure. Totally been there. Yeah. And, um, and so when he started learning these communication skills and people skills and reading people and matching people and, and creating more rapport, He said it really helped a lot. He started to be able to get anybody to like him more in about 30 seconds and, uh, yeah, powerful.
[00:27:17] And so that’s something that you can learn these days upgrading beliefs and improving your communication skills, not your technical skills will get you that next promotion.
[00:27:28] I love this and I wanna connect back to something you said earlier, because I think it’s important. to the context.
[00:27:35] Zach White: And I hear it from engineering leaders all the time. A, it’s not that you don’t want it bad enough. You know, this idea of, if you wanted that promotion, you would actually do what it takes or work hard enough to get there, which that’s false. We work our’s false belief. Yeah. Leads to problem. Number two, that I see all the time, which is they are working their asses off and they’re already putting in 60, 70, 80.
[00:27:58] A week. Yeah. To try to get to that next level because they do actually desire it. But then that behavior leads to, an imbalance in their life where their relationships at home fall apart or their health falls apart. And they end up. Really burned out frustrated and truly feeling stuck in this kind of trap.
[00:28:18] Like, well, how much harder can I work? I’m already doing everything I know how to do. Right. And, we get into this place. And then the, maybe the shame of that belief that I need to work harder to get to it. And how do I possibly work any harder kicks in. can you, talk a little bit about this idea.
[00:28:35] Finding the belief that might actually be the root cause rather than, these things that we on the surface think are the problem, Tim, is that something you can actually discover? to your point about like the label, if you’re in the bottle, you can’t see it. Can you make, progress or break through on your own in those areas?
[00:28:53] Or is this really something that you need the support of a, a therapist to coach, a person to come alongside and. Help you with those blind spots. What’s your perspective on that? I
[00:29:04] Tim Schurr: think you, you need both, right? So I’m gonna give you a, some question, a simple question that you can ask yourself that can help you to start to get started, but you do need somebody, even if it’s, you know, my $17 book where you go through the exercises and it gives you the language and the questions to ask, because it’s too hard doing it on your.
[00:29:25] We are interrelated and interrelated species. We need each other, and it’s too hard to see your own blind spots. It’s too hard to be objective with yourself. So you do need help in some way, even if it’s through a book to give you some insights. however, you can start today by asking yourself a question, you know, um, if I’m feeling stuck, what am I most afraid?
[00:29:47] And then where did I get that idea from now? A lot of smart, strong, tough people who are in this spot who feel like, you know, I’m at work feeling like I’m supposed to be at home. And when I’m at home, I feel like I should be working and you’re getting called a workaholic and you know, but I’m doing it for the family, you know, and then never feeling like you’re appreciated anywhere, which is very depressing sometimes.
[00:30:09] we don’t think of it as being. We think it would’ve been stressed or angst or just under pressured or overwhelmed. Right. But if you dig deep enough, you realize that it actually is a fear. cuz it’s coming from scarcity. I don’t have enough money. I don’t have enough status. I don’t have enough hours in the day, to get it all done.
[00:30:28] Tim Schurr: I don’t have enough energy to keep working, a hundred hours a week, especially as I get older, I’m running out of time, you know, and that all is coming from scarcity, which comes from fear. So if you ask yourself, what am I most afraid of? And then you ask yourself that question about 50. I’d only have to ask it once with my method, cuz I know how to take you back and find it.
[00:30:48] But if you’re doing it on your own, you gotta ask yourself enough to get past the layers. You know how Shrek said, we have layers you gotta get past the layers. Right? So what am I afraid of? I’m not afraid of anything. Okay. But what am I afraid of? Um, you know, afraid I’m I’m never gonna get what I want and you know, they’re gonna block me or what, what am I afraid of then?
[00:31:07] You know, I’m, I’m afraid. Uh, I’m never gonna get there and what am I afraid of then that I won’t have enough money to take care of my family and what am I afraid of then? Well, then they’re gonna lose respect for me. Yeah. You know, or they might leave me, what am I afraid of then? Well, then, I’ll be nothing.
[00:31:23] I’ll be all alone, you know? Well, what are you afraid of then? Well, I’m afraid of that. I don’t matter. I don’t mean anything. You know, I’m not enough. Now you’re scratching the surface, the deepest fears of not being enough, not mattering. Yeah. Right. If I don’t have this, um, you know, I won’t have that a lot of times over the years, women were looked at as sex objects and men were looked at as success objects.
[00:31:49] Oof. So a lot of guys tie their self worth to their, net worth mm-hmm right. I’m my bank. And if it dips below then, I mean nothing. And if I have to make more, then, and even when I’m making more, we spend more and then we just feel broke at a higher level. And it’s this horrible game , of never feeling like we’re enough.
[00:32:10] And if you have a belief and your life is projecting out, that I am never enough, then you will never have enough. You will never get that promotion. You will never have that new job. You will never make those choices that, you know, you should. You come home, you say, I hate my job every single day. Quit and go get another one.
[00:32:26] Yeah, but I need the paycheck. Yeah. But you could actually eventually get another job where you would have a better paycheck or you would enjoy life more. You gotta close that door to get the other one to open. But people have that head trash in their mind that know what if I don’t get another job? Or what if I’m, you know, don’t get hired.
[00:32:43] And what if, what if and all that is coming from fear? Yes. So you do that, you know, what am I afraid of? And you get to that core one, and then you ask a second question. What would I rather believe instead? Hm, because beliefs are just opinions. you can have a new opinion anytime you want. What would I rather believe instead?
[00:33:01] Well, I wanna believe that I am enough and that no matter what my family love me and that I’m gonna love me and that I’m good enough to be able to accomplish anything. And if, uh, I learned my people skills and I’m, finding out why I didn’t get the promotion and what I can improve on.
[00:33:15] And we have, a PIP in place, a performance, plan. What’s a, a performance improvement improvement plan. Yeah. A performance improvement plan. It’s a
[00:33:25] Zach White: naughty word around the engineering hallways. Tim, we don’t, oh, I know. I
[00:33:28] Tim Schurr: didn’t like, I didn’t know what pips were or KPIs or anything.
[00:33:31] I came from the cornfields Indiana. Steel mill kid. Right? So, so I didn’t know what any of that was, but now, we understand, all right, well, where can I grow? And then I actually take that serious and I’m not working harder. I’m actually backing off, slowing down, figuring out where to work smarter.
[00:33:49] engineers are very intelligent human beings. It’s just, you gotta study something different. Yes. And remember this always. Your biggest breakthroughs are hidden in the places you don’t want to go. Ooh. So where you resist, you must persist. Say it again. Biggest breakthroughs. Your biggest breakthroughs are hidden.
[00:34:07] Tim Schurr: They’re hiding right now in the places you don’t want to go. So wherever you are resisting, that’s where you need to go next, where you resist, you must. And so if you don’t wanna go there, that’s where it is, brother. That’s the point sister, you know, and you make that happen. And then that’s what, opens your door to opportunity.
[00:34:28] Zach White: I love this line. exploration and Tim, I talked a little bit before we hit record today. my business is Oasis of courage. And the reason for that is deeper than I’ll share in this moment. But part of it is because fundamentally I believe that fear. Is the, the force that’s holding back all these amazing engineering leaders that I get to support and coach and train and work with in the workplace, in their homes, in their personal thoughts when they’re alone and there’s nobody, but you know, their own conscious mind spinning.
[00:35:03] And so just to get. Really vulnerable around. What am I afraid of? I think that’s such a powerful, powerful question. And I know we’re short on time. I wanna make sure to be respectful. We wrap before you have to go Tim, but can you really quickly give your perspective on. what is courage? Because just the work you do and how much you spend time in those darkest places of what people are truly afraid of at their core.
[00:35:28] Yeah. what does courage mean and what does it look like? How do you define it? Just in, in the perspective of Tim, what is courage?
[00:35:36] Tim Schurr: Courage is being scared to death and deciding to do it anyway, because you have to either find out what you’re made of, or you’re gonna do it altruistically for somebody.
[00:35:48] Right. Most of my life, I’ve been afraid. And I feel like I’ve become an incredibly courageous or crazy , but I prefer courageous human being, because being self-employed for 27 years with all the volatility of all of that, mm-hmm, , it has been gut wrenching, so many times a massive amount of uncertainty to deal with not ever having a steady paycheck ever.
[00:36:11] When pay days are awesome. It’s awesome. And when it’s not, it sucks. Right. And so I’ve had to have the courage to dig deep and be afraid and do it anyway, to grow forward. I don’t believe in failure. I believe in feedback, you know, there is no failure. It’s just feedback. That’s right. I’m gonna mess up.
[00:36:27] I’m gonna learn from it. I’m going to grow and I’m gonna pivot my next time around and I’m gonna grow forward and apply what I’ve learned. Right? So everything is just feedback. So, uh, truly, that’s how I look at courage. You cannot be courageous without fear. Yes. It takes courage. It takes fear to have courage.
[00:36:46] So you do it and you go for it, cuz we’re all gonna die anyway. And we never know. All of us could be dead tomorrow truly, right? Yep. So why tiptoe through life so that you can safely arrive at death? Why don’t we just go for it? Right. We came into this world naked and screaming. Let’s leave that way. I
[00:37:04] Zach White: love it.
[00:37:05] That’s so good, Tim. If somebody wants to really go deeper with your work, everything with the one belief away method and explore this further, where can they go to find you and, and take this to the next.
[00:37:18] Tim Schurr: what we’re gonna do for your listeners is I’m gonna offer a free gift, that power of your unconscious mind audiobook is so awesome.
[00:37:25] And so let’s just give everybody a copy of that. if you amazing want to learn how your mind works and you wanna hear amazing stories about how people achieve their impossible goals, uh, using my one belief away method, just go to Tim sure. Dot com slash gift, you know, like amazing, amazing.com/.
[00:37:44] Zach White: I cannot encourage you engineering leader listening right now enough to go do that immediately.
[00:37:50] So we’ll put a link in the show notes, please go click it and download that Tim’s work is absolutely life changing. You will not regret it. So Tim, thank you so much for your time, your generosity in this conversation. It’s amazing. And you know, I always end in the same place and in a way you’ve given us a brilliant answer already to this question, but I’ll ask it again and see maybe you have.
[00:38:11] something else or, or just to reiterate this important point you’ve already made around, what am I afraid of, but, questions, lead answers, follow whether it’s great coaching, great engineering, creating success in any area of your life. As you define it, we wanna ask great questions. And so for that engineering leader, who’s been with us listening today, what would be the best question you would lead them?
[00:38:35] I gave you one of them, which is what do you want to believe instead? What do you want to have happen? Instead? I think that’s so important because our mind, especially when we’re analytical, we tend to be problem solvers. So, which means we’re always finding problems so that we can solve ’em, but our mind is always finding problems.
[00:38:50] Tim Schurr: Right. And so what the question is, what do you want to have happen? I. So when you S have scary scenarios that I’m never gonna get that promotion, what do I want to have happen? I want that promotion. So imagine having it, imagine you actually have it, cuz that’ll shift how you feel. And then one last question.
[00:39:07] What’s one step that I can take right now to start to move in that direction. Hmm,
[00:39:14] Zach White: simple. Maybe not always easy, but I, I hope everybody takes that to heart and takes that action quickly, uh, in the spirit of Tony Robbins, don’t leave the side of that decision without taking the action to make it real.
[00:39:27] Right. So get after it,
[00:39:28] Tim Schurr: yeah. People are like, if I don’t know how to do that well, that’s why you have your show Zach, because you’re, constantly getting on here and giving. All these action steps, do this, do this, do this. So if somebody says, well, I don’t know how to do that.
[00:39:41] And yes, you do. You subscribe to Zach’s show you listen to all the episodes and you’ll find your
[00:39:45] Zach White: answers. I appreciate that. We we’ve been blessed to have a lot of amazing leaders come on and give us those tips and yeah, just keep taking action. I love, you know, we don’t wanna go into death saying I.
[00:39:58] Totally safe. I thought that was so, so powerful. Like I’m gonna go sliding into home, play full on man. So Tim, you’re the best. Thank you so much for your time today. And can’t wait to connect with you again and appreciate you all the work you do, and just keep changing lives the way you do. your mastery in this space is unparalleled.
[00:40:15] So thanks again for sharing it with us.
[00:40:18] Tim Schurr: Thank you, Zach. It’s been a pleasure