The Happy Engineer Podcast

077: Can You Do the Impossible? How to Overcome Any Disadvantage with Jessica Cox – the World’s 1st Armless Pilot

Why me? Why do I have to be different? Why is life not fair?

If you’ve ever asked a question like that in your life, then you are going to deeply connect with our powerful conversation.

In this episode, the amazing Jessica Cox brings a message that you will never forget. Before I tell you why Jessica grew up asking these questions with frustration and anger, let me tell you that Jessica is now a motivational speaker who’s been featured on shows like Ellen, CNN, National Geographic, Fox and Friends, and the BBC News. Her speaking career spans 17 years, 27 countries and audiences of up to 40,000 people.

This is a message of hope, of achieving the impossible.

Jessica was born without arms, and she now uses her feet the way that most people use their hands! She flies airplanes and is the first licensed pilot with no arms, she drives cars, she’s married, and otherwise lives a normal life.

She is going to invite you into something bigger, to overcome your apparent disabilities or disadvantages in your career, and to step into your own courage, confidence, and greatness.

So press play and let’s chat… it’s time to break the barrier of the impossible and do it anyway!

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DO THE IMPOSSIBLE AND OVERCOME ANY DISADVANTAGE

Turn a NO into a YES. 

This might be one of the most important principles to pull out of a truly powerful conversation with Jessica Cox. 

I am so inspired. 

I want to laser in on how you become the kind of person who can turn a no into a yes.

There are two things that you must hear. 

If you apply these two principles, you will be able to accelerate your goals and dreams in your career and in your life in ways that are currently unimaginable for you.

1) You already have a NO if you don’t have the courage to ask

This is the most common thing that plagues engineering leaders, introverts, people who lack the courage to go out and ask for what they want. 

There’s something that you want, or something that you need help with, but instead of asking, you try to solve that on your own.

You read another book, you listen to another podcast, you Google it or YouTube it for hours and hours to figure it out on your own. 

When you could have asked one person one question and gotten help. 

You already have a NO if you do not muster up the courage to ask for a yes.

This is true in your career right now. 

Maybe it’s a mentor who you’d really love to have to support you in your career growth and sponsor you in your career path. 

Well, if you don’t ask that person, you already have a no. You must go ask. 

I am in a mastermind with the absolute world’s greatest, Les Brown. 

If you don’t know Les, he is one of the grandfathers of motivational speaking and inspiration of our time. 

Les Brown and I were chatting during this Mastermind one day and he said to me, “You go out there and ask for help as soon as you need it, and you keep asking for help until you get it, not as a sign of weakness, but as a sign of your strength.

I agree with that wholeheartedly. 

We must get into the habit of asking for help as soon as we need it. 

Continuing to ask until we get it and not falling for this lie that needing help makes us weak.

It’s a sign of knowing that the fastest way to get things done is to get help from somebody who’s already done it. 

2) Keep asking. 

It’s that second half of the less brown quote.

If you want to turn a no into a yes, you must have the determination to continue to step in and ask. 

Come and ask in a different way. Ask a week later and ask with a different spin on it. 

People are drawn in to people who have a relentless energy. 

This just happened to me, about a week ago.

There’s a gentleman who I met at a networking event in Nashville, Tennessee. 

We sat at the same table. We connected for a few hours over the course of the day.

It was a nice connection, but we’re in totally different businesses.

He reached out to me and asked for support in helping him with how to use LinkedIn more effectively for his business because we used it pretty heavily with OACO in reaching out to engineering leaders like yourself.

Well, this is a complete distraction for me. This is not what I do. I’m not a LinkedIn consultant. 

So helping somebody with marketing tips on LinkedIn was not a priority for my calendar. 

I was really kind and courteous, but essentially said, “Hey, I don’t have the time right now.”

He came back and messaged me again. And asked for 15 minutes just to have a quick chat, and I declined him again. 

Said, “Hey, I really understand, you know, you wanna chat, but right now I’ve got so much on my plate. We just hired someone, you know, I’m onboarding them, and I don’t have time to make this a priority.”

I’m very protective of my time just as I challenge and coach all of my clients to be.

He messaged me again and this time he said, “Hey, I know that you’re super busy and I know that your time is incredibly valuable, so I would be happy to pay you for your time in order to have a conversation. Just let me know what it would cost. I would love to talk to you about what you’re doing.”

Well, now he’s getting my attention, but I still said, “You know what, this is not what I do. I’m not a consultant for this. I appreciate that you respect my time, but it’s still a no.” 

Well, guess what he did next? 

He came back again and this time said, “Well, look, I know this is something that could help me, and I know that you’re an expert, so I’d love to pay you for your time, and if you’re open to it, I would love to reward you with a referral fee for anybody who we close on LinkedIn by using any of the tips that you give me to build our business on. And it would be X dollars per client that we acquire for the next year.

I know you will not always have a financial way to get someone’s attention, but pay attention not to the exact execution but to the relentless focus at the end of the day.

I gave this gentleman half an hour of my time. I did not charge him a dime for it because it wasn’t ever about the money. 

What drew me in to wanting to support him was the fact that he would not stop asking, and at the end I said, Well, look, if it’s that important to him, I’ll make time to make this happen because I am drawn into his relentless energy to want to connect with me.

Ask, ask, ask, and then don’t stop asking until you get the answers that you need to accomplish the things that you’re aiming to accomplish. 

You can be determined without being disrespectful or going against boundaries. 

And if someone says outright, please stop bothering me, then give it a break for a while.

 And when you do come back to them, let them know that, “Hey, I recognize you asked me to stop bothering you, but I absolutely respect you and I would love to have an opportunity so how can I approach this in a way that you would be open?

Turn no into, yes. And the life of your dreams will appear before your eyes so much faster than you ever thought possible. Let’s do this.

ABOUT JESSICA COX

Jessica Cox is a motivational speaker featured on TV shows like Ellen, CNN, National Geographic, Fox and Friends, and BBC News. Her speaking career spans 17 years, 27 countries, and audiences up to 40,000 people. Companies like AT&T, NASA, the Smithsonian, State Farm, and Cisco have asked her for inspirational workshops, keynotes, and more. Jessica was born without arms and uses her feet the way most people use their hands.

Jessica grew up asking with frustration and anger, “Why me? Why do I have to be different?” She learned to see the blessings in her life and accept herself as a whole person. Now, Jessica flies airplanes, drives cars, is married, and otherwise lives a normal life.

Jessica is the author of Disarm Your Limits, an autobiographical self help book that has sold more than 10,000 copies. She also writes a monthly article for Flying Magazine. In 2020,

Jessica announced plans to build The Impossible Airplane, a custom 200 mph, 4 seat airplane she will use to circumnavigate the world. When she’s not flying off into the sunset, Jessica continues to train in Taekwondo where she’s a Fourth Degree Black Belt.

 

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[00:00:00] Zach White: Jessica, awesome to have time with you today. Thanks so much for your generosity and being here, and welcome to The Happy Engineer Podcast. 

[00:00:09] Jessica Cox: I’m excited to be on. Thank you for having me. 

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